I believe in yesterday

I would like to ask some things of those who have felt, or feel now, that they have an undiagnosed or “phantom” disease.  Let’s say your doctors are confounded, or are losing patience with you.  Tests continue to come back normal.  You feel anything but normal.  Your family feels helpless, or worse, tells you to snap out of it.  Your social life is going downhill because you won’t commit to plans, or cancel them at the last minute.  You have one “good day” out of a week, or maybe two weeks.

Depression is one thing that I am very aware of, and have been treated for, and doctors have told me that physical symptoms can be coupled with this condition.  If that is so, and chronic 24/7 pain and debilitating weakness can be attributed to it, then I would say it is the worst thing that has ever visited this old guy.

I know, from reading some of your accounts, that sometimes the desperation is so great, we feel like throwing in the towel.  I have even followed people on WordPress that seemed to me as if they were going to do something desperate.  That’s when I realize I’m not there yet, and I try to keep them talking and check in with them frequently.

How do you stay afloat?
What has the medicine man told you?
Is your family supportive, or do you have any community support?
What’s your percentage of “good days”?
Do you feel as if you’re being punished for something?

So many more things I could ask, but that’s good for starters.
I appreciate your reading.


18 responses to “I believe in yesterday”

  1. I’ve been through something similar, although in my case I was very very lucky. It was my primary care doc who said “I’ve tested you for everything there is. The good news is you don’t have Lupus, Lyme, MS…..” He then told me that we were going on the assumption that it is fibromyalgia. Medication (Cymbalta) and awareness of how to manage flare ups has totally changed my life. Have you tried any of the fibromyalgia meds?

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  2. I’m sorry you’re going through such a rough time Lee. After suffering from migraines since childhood, I’ve also been diagnosed with fibromyalgia, neuropathy, IBS, and Sjogren’s Syndrome. Getting these diagnoses took years and as a result I had to go on disability leaving my 26 year career as a children’s librarian which devastated me. Everyone who I thought were friends deserted me and for awhile I was in a very dark place. What saved me was blogging and the wonderful people I’ve met here online. While I still have more pain-filled days than not, and I battle depression and anxiety, I know things could be much worse.

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  3. I have personally never had any kind of formal diagnosis, Lee. I suffer from all of those symptoms myself and I find a great reticence over comes me when I have to make any plans. I am getting a far deeper insight in my condition that a lot of my defences and symptoms are grief related and also related to loss. i feel reiticent to connect as I am never sure how deeply I will be able to connect with others, will i be judged treated kindly or meanly.. be told to ‘snap out of it’ and then get triggered to feel angrier and sadder.

    I know so many of us suffer like this and my personal feeling is that so many things happen that affect us emotionally but we dont understandt that and so the body carries it in our cells in whatever way it can or does. It keeps us awake or we have terror over falling to sleep. then its hard to wake up and trust the new day with ‘a shadow hanging over me (us)’ as in the lyrics of that lovely song you headed your blog with.

    I am sorry this isnt answering all your questions in order but its my two cents worth. Doctors cant find anything because a lof of our feelings are bodily expressed but the medical profession doesnt often recognise that and I feel a lot of psychiatrists out there also dont understand.

    Love Deborah

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